Narcissists seek to control, manipulate and ultimately aim to get their own needs met in a variety of ways and by using different techniques. I liken this to watching a lone fisherman at work and call these techniques ‘bait’. In working with clients who may be experiencing narcissistic abuse I often ask them to try to visualise the narcissist sitting on the side of a bank, fishing. As he or she tries to catch their target, they will try out various different types of bait in