There is no doubt that being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist is traumatic. Narcissistic abuse and gaslighting are particularly maddening and traumatising forms of psychological abuse. What is Trauma? In basic terms 'trauma' is an experience, whether it's a one-off event, series of events or an ongoing situation or relationship that fundamentally threatens your sense of safety or security. Experiencing a mixture of the two is known as complex PTSD or C-PTSD. Being w
Narcissists seek to control, manipulate and ultimately aim to get their own needs met in a variety of ways and by using different techniques. I liken this to watching a lone fisherman at work and call these techniques ‘bait’. In working with clients who may be experiencing narcissistic abuse I often ask them to try to visualise the narcissist sitting on the side of a bank, fishing. As he or she tries to catch their target, they will try out various different types of bait in
If you suspect you may be involved with a narcissist then knowledge really becomes a powerful tool. Arming yourself with as much information as possible can be really helpful in identifying and spotting abuse and an important first step in recovery from narcissistic abuse. Narcissists can be found anywhere and everywhere. Male or Female. Young or Old. The signs: Typically, overt narcissists are the easiest to learn to spot. They are the classic view of the narcissist, often c
Dr. Sarah Davies comments in Breathe Magazine. Article on Narcissism: an insiders view.
"Recognising you're in a relationship with a narcissist can be challenging. The kind of person they're attracted to may have patterns of codependency or be prone to fantasy, which leaves them vulnerable to believing their partners version of events. It can take solid self-esteem and firm, healthy boundaries to say enough is enough and walk away from an abusive narcissistic relationship. In
Psychologies Magazine ran a feature on Narcissistic Relationships and Narcissistic Abuse - an area of specialism of Dr. Sarah Davies - as well as a focus on the kinds of people who tend to be drawn to these kinds of toxic relationships, sometimes referred to as "echoism". "The people narcissists are drawn to are caring, kind, generous and considerate..." - Dr. Sarah Davies #narcissisticabuse #counselling #psychologist #london
I recently came across a new book called “Engage the Group: Engage the Brain - 100 Experiential Activities for Addiction Treatment” first published in 2015. It’s an innovative collection of individual and group therapy tasks aimed at being used to help treat addiction. There is a range of evidence-based interventions, fun, mind-body connection exercises and it’s been put together by two American psychologists. I was pleasantly surprised to find one of the suggested activities